Today, I want to share something that has changed the way I connect with children—especially those on the autism spectrum. It’s the awareness that our energy speaks louder than our words.
Our kids often feel the vibration of our emotions before they ever process what we say. When we become aware of this, we can use that sensitivity as a bridge instead of a barrier.
Understanding Vibrations
Vibrations are simply the energy behind our thoughts, words, and emotions.
They aren’t about being “positive” all the time—because life is real, and we all have hard moments.
Instead, it’s about gently shifting from heavy emotions like fear or frustration toward lighter ones like calm, courage, or love.
That shift helps us stay regulated, which helps our children feel safer and more balanced too.
Three Simple Tools to Lift Your Vibration
Here are three simple ways to work with vibrational energy—for you and your child.
1. Awareness and Acceptance
Start by noticing how you feel.
Say to yourself, “I feel angry,” or “I feel worried.” Just naming it brings awareness and softens its hold. You don’t have to fix it or judge it—just notice it. Awareness is always the first step toward change.
2. The 90-Second Rule
Emotions show up as chemicals in our bodies that usually move through in about 90 seconds—if we let them. So, take a deep breath and give yourself that space.
When a wave of emotion rises, try saying, “I feel…” and breathe through it. You’ll be amazed at how much lighter you feel after those 90 seconds.
3. The Power of Words: “I Am” vs. “I Feel”
This little language shift can make a big difference.
Instead of “I am angry,” try “I feel angry.”
One keeps you stuck; the other gives you room to change. It’s a simple way to remind yourself—and your child—that emotions come and go.
Bringing It into Daily Life
You can use visual tools like my Vibrational Chart or Feelings Wheel to help your child recognize and name emotions.
You might also notice when they’re picking up others’ feelings (many of our kids do!).
Gently teach them how to send those feelings back with love, instead of holding onto them.
A Gentle Reminder
This isn’t about being happy all the time. It’s about finding steadiness.
When you stay grounded and centered, your child senses that safety too. You’re modeling what emotional regulation looks like—something they can learn through your energy, not just your words.
If you’d like a simple tool to help, download the Vibrational Chart and Feelings Wheel I’ve created.
They’re wonderful visual reminders to help you and your child find language—and peace—around emotions.
By tuning into vibration, you create a home filled with more calm, connection, and love. And every small shift you make truly matters.
You are seen. You are heard. You are known. You are loved.
